GHOST of Your Past Starts to Get Inside of YOU

Hi readers, (if I still have one....hehe)

It's been quite a while since the last time I post my last entry here. I believe that was Mother's day of this year, May 8. Lot of things happened to me in that span of time. Struggles, adventure, drama, and more. Going through all of these is a hard thing to do...yet, so fulfilling. I've learned things that I only knew because I heard it from some people, read it from the book, or saw it on TV. But this time, it is my turn to go with these things. Now, one thing I want to share is the most recent I had in my relationship to my RECENT EX-parter. 

Okay, let me introduce this guy, in order for you to understand why I am sharing this experience. Meet JED, he is a male bisexual who longs for a partner who will love and care for him. JED is among of my "clanmates" in our province. JED is sweet, cute and caring. Though, there are instances that he can't absorb of what I am trying to explain yet he keeps on saying, "I understand what you are trying to say."

JED is seeking for love and loyalty. Knowing JED, he had numerous past relationships that really made him to become doubtful towards his partner. He doesn't even trust his partner fully because of  his experiences in the past. Because of his, our relationship starts to fall apart. We broke up because of failing to fulfill my promise without giving me the chance to make up. Take note, it is my first time to commit such act.

In JED's case, he is among of those people who are afraid to be left alone and be hurt. They fear these things and treat it as their GHOST. They dislike people who turns them down for the first time, leaving them the feeling of being the so aggravated by the offender, regardless if the reason is very simple or not.

If these people keeps on experiencing this things, they become so immune with the cycle and start to become one of those people who turned them down. Victims of this MONSTER (cycle) becomes part of it.

Are you afraid to face the same ghost like what JED is afraid of? Are you aware that you might be one of those who turn other people as part of this cycle? Or if you are the victim, do you think you are starting to become one of them? THINK....

NOTE:

This entry was made, not to expose of my personal hatred to what happened between  me and JED. The purpose of this entry is to enlighten other people and share what I have observed. THANKS.

-KoMhico

Mom, You're the best!!!

 We never know the love of the parent until we become parents ourselves.
-Henry Ward Beecher


She's never get tired of thinking of us, praying that we are all safe and in good condition, providing unconditional love, and giving all their best just to make sure we are okay. This is how my mom, Eleonor, show her love to our family. Even though numerous struggles comes in to our way, she'll always be there and help us.

I miss our small talk about things like food, simple jokes, places, and more. I even miss the times when she's very mad, but then she'll smile when we start hugging her. If I will be given the chance to choose a mother, I will definitely never let go of her. My mom is the ONLY mother I will always treasure...

Mom, thank you so much to everything. I'm so proud of you and we love you. Happy mother's day!!!

"Long Distance Relationship": Is it True or Not?

Hi readers,

It's been a while since the last time I posted my last entry here in My Guy. I was kinda preoccupied in the past few days. For today, I'll be talking about my experience for having a relationship that most people normally call "Long Distance Relationship."

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"If ever there is tomorrow when we're not together. There is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we're apart... I'll always be with you." 

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To begin with, I am currently in a transition where it requires me to adjust in so many things.Starting from the time of my sleep, stretching my budget, getting along with different people with different personalities, and more. What's more hard for me is the fact that I am far from my love ones, as well as to my significant someone. I can deal with all of these dramas and mishaps, but what I cannot tolerate is my emotion whenever I start missing my significant someone.

Being away with him is not that easy. I hate to say this, but it is like a torture to me. I don't know. Some say that this type of relationship won't work, while others say it works. In my case, I don't want to lose him, so as me to him. We share the same thoughts of not wanting to lose each other.

As I went here, it is not easy for the two of us, most especially to me. All of my plans for the two of us were ruined. Career wise, I chose to proceed. Currently, we are both sacrificing, and holding on to our promises to each other.

In our case, temptations and fools are always lurking around trying to break us apart. Hopefully, we make it and our love and faith for each other will keep us holding on to each other.

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My Guy's Opinion:

Long distance relationship is a very serious and sensitive matter. Everybody's opinion regarding on this issue, whether it won't last or not, were both happening in reality. This type of relationship will only last depending on how both lovers will manage and control the flow of their relationship. It will only be broken if one or both individual tends to become weak and got provoke by certain circumstances.

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Equal Love for Everyone

Love is for Everybody.

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Love Knows No Boundaries

Hi readers,

Muli, nais kong magpasalamat sa inyong lahat na bumibisita at nagbabasa ng aking entry sa aking munting blog, regardless kung ito man ay maganda o hindi kaaya-aya. Nais ko lamang pong ibahagi ang aking idea at opinyon patungkol sa mga bagay-bagay na may kinalaman sa aking sexual preference.

At para sa araw na ito, nais kong bigyang pansin ang isang istoryang nakapagbigay sa akin ng inspirasyon. The story I was telling about was a bisexual love story. If you are going to ask me, it was an epic. The title is "No Boundaries" sa panulat ni Emray (author's penname) na aking natagpuan sa isang blog na aking madalas tambayan, which is Literatures of Life ni Kuya Jayson.

The story features the life and love story of Nico and Andrei. Si Nico ay isang sacristan, valedictorian, at achiever sa kanilang bayan, samantalang si Andrei ay anak ng isang gobernador. Ang kanilang pagtatagpo ay tila sinasadya ng kapalaran, kung inyong mababasa ang naturang istorya.

Maraming karakter din ang napasama sa istory na lalong nagbigay ng kulay sa takbo ng love story ng dalawa. Kasama na dito ang kani-kanilang pamilya na may sari-sariling problema na bumagabag sa kanilang pagkatao ngunit sa kinalaunan ay nasolusyunan, ang unti-unting pagkahulog ni Andrei at nang kanyang kakambal na si Andrew sa batang si Nico lalo na sa maganda nitong boses at kaaya-ayang muka nito, andiyan din ang pagpasok ni Nico sa seminaryo tulad nang inaasahan ng marami sa kanya at ang pagtulong niya sa kinakaharap na mga issue ng naturang seminaryo, ang pagsasakripisyo ni Andrei para sa kanyang tinatanging Nico, at isang matinding karamdaman na dumapo kay Nico na naging sanhi ng pagkamulat ng lahat sa kabutihang nagawa nito sa lahat ng taong nakakakilala dito.

Ito ay ilan lamang sa dapat asahan sa naturang kwento. Kahit na ito ay isang istoryang nabibilang sa Gay Literature, ito pa rin ay kapupulutan ng aral na nangyayare sa tunay na buhay.

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My Guy's Insight:

Base sa istorya ng "No Boundaries," ipinakita ng dalawang karakter na sina Nico at Andrei ang klase ng pagmamahala kung saan ipinamalas ang pagsasakripisyo ng isa para sa kasiyahan ng isa. Hindi lamang ito sa pagitan ng dalawa, ngunit ito rin ay ipinamalas ng ibang karakter sa kwento para sa kapakanan at pagmamahal sa mga taong minamahal nila.

Kabilang din dito ang mabubuting gawaing ipinamalas ni Nico, na sa kabila ng mga pasakit at inaakalang pambabalewala sa kanya ng kanyang pamilya ay nanatili ang paniniwala na ang lahat ng ito ay may dahilan. Sa huli, ang pagsasakripisyo ng binata ay nagbunga.

Ang isa ring nakakabilib sa istoryang ito ay ang pagpapamalas ng malakas na pananalig ni Nico sa Poong Maykapal. Ang madalas na pakikipag-usap dito sa tuwing pakiramdam niya ay magulo ang lahat at tila ba nag-iisa siya at walang masandalan kundi ang Poong Maykapal lamang.

Ang masasabi ko lamang ay hindi matatawaran ang kwentong ito dahil sa nabigyang diin ang titulo na pagdating sa Love, walang boundary na makakahadlang dito, no matter what it takes as long as totoo ito, handang magpamalas ng katatagan at pang-unawa, at nananatiling malakas ang pananalig sa Poong Maykapal.

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Love Does Not Spell S-E-X

Hi readers,

First, I would like to say thank you sa mga nagpakita ng appreciation sa aking unang entry dito sa "Komhico's My Guy."

Now, as a start, I will have my opinion regarding on the misconception of Love and Sex based on how I understand it. I have chosen this particular topic dahil sa isang pangyayaring aking naalala, na nangyari sa akin 1 year and 4 months ago.

May nakilala akong bisexual from Manila named Michael. Nakilala ko siya sa isang kilalang bar ng mga bisexuals at gays sa Cubao malapit sa Gateway. Dito usually nagkikita kita ang mga bi at gays na kasali sa mga group, clans, societies, or whatever they call it.

I've been in that place only once. So, I was hanging out with my friends na nagdala sa akin sa lugar na yon. Pinaghalong kaba, hiya, saya, at curiosity ang aking naramdaman ng mapunta ako sa lugar na iyon. Since bago ako sa lugar, hindi ako gaano sanay to mingle with strangers sa lugar na iyon. We started to drink around 10 PM until 3 AM. Around 1AM pa lang, medyo tinamaan na ako ng beer kaya't medyo nagkaroon ako ng guts na makipagusap sa hindi ko kakilala.

Unconsciously, meron palang nakamasid sa akin sa pagdating pa lang namin. That was Michael. Isang 3rd year education student mula sa isang pamantasan around Manila area. Habang patuloy ang kasiyahan, I decided to have a leak sa comfort room sa second floor ng bar kasi ang haba ng pila sa baba. Hindi ko namalayan na sinundan niya pala ako at hinintay niya sa labas ng comfort room. Paglabas ko ng CR, nagkunwari siyang nabunggo ako at nagsorry, then he introduced himself. We talked for about 5 minutes bago ako bumalik sa table namin at this time, kasama na siya. I introduced him to my friends and agreed na isali siya sa kasiyahan namin.

It was 3 AM nang magdecide ang grupo na umuwi na. By that time, Michael asked my permission kung pwede niya daw ba akong ihatid sa bahay namin, so I said YES. Habang nasa taxi na kami, I told him na ayaw ko pang umuwi. By that, he decided to take me on his apartment malapit lang sa school nila. Mag-isa lang siya sa apartment that time dahil umuwi ang ate niya ng Pampanga.

So, what would you expect to happen kung may dalawang bisexual sa isang lugar na solo nila. That's when the action happened.

Nagising na kami around 11 AM. Nagprepare siya nga meal para sa aming dalawa habang ako ay nagpapahinga pa rin sa room niya. Later on, tinawag niya na ako para kumain. Habang ineenjoy namin ang aming pagkaen, nagsalita siya. Binalikan niya ang mga nangyare sa aming dalawa ng buong magdamag. As he went on sa pagkukwento, nabanggit niyang mahal niya na ako dahil sa may nangyare na sa aming dalawa. I was shocked sa narinig. Hindi ko alam kung pagtatawanan ko siya o anuman. Ang tangi ko lang nasabi ay, "Siryoso ka?"

Sa murang edad kong ito, natutunan ko na kung anu ang ibig sabihin at ang pakiramdam ng conventional love sa pagitan ng isang lalaki at isang babae. Ganun din naman ang pagmamahal sa kapwa lalaki. Aware din ako sa realidad na may mga taong ang hanap lamang ay tawag ng laman. Ang mga bagay na ganito ay walang eksaktong paliwanag at palaging case-to-case basis.

Sa pagkakasabi kong iyon, nagulat siya sa reaksyon ko. Unfortunately, I turned him down sa mga nasabi niya sa akin at pinaliwanag sa kanya na hindi ako sang-ayon doon base sa aking paniniwala. Sa ngayon, hindi ko na alam kung nasaan man siya ngayon, at umaasang siya ay ligtas, masaya at nasa mabuting kalagayan.

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My Guy's Advice:

We all know na sa isang relasyon, kasama ang pakikipagniig sa kapareha. Ngunit kung hindi alam ng isang indibidwal ang pagkakaiba ng tawag ng laman sa pagmamahal, isa itong malaking problema. Sa kasalukuyan, maraming bisexual at gay ang naghahanap ng tunay na pagmamahal, ngunit marami din naman ang nais ng panandaliang pakikipagniig upang maibsan ang init ng kanilang katawan sa tulong ng ibang taong hindi nila karelasyon. Ang katwiran ng mga taong gumagawa nito, "no strings attached, just pure fun."

Ngunit sa mga ganitong pangyayari, may mga indibidwal na ginagamit ang paraang ito upang makahanap ng tunay na pagmamahal. Maaring tama para sa iba, at mali naman base sa prinsipyo at pananaw ng iba.

May kanya-kanya tayong definition ng pagmamahal. Nakakalungkot nga lang isipin na may mga taong nabubulagan at hindi malaman kung tunay na pagmamahal nga ang nararamdaman nila at hindi LIBIDO lamang ang pinaiiral.

Payo lamang, kung nagnanais kang makatagpo ng pagmamahal mula sa iyong ineexpect na kapareha, make sure na magsisimula ito sa isang magandang bagay, hindi dahil sa tawag ng laman. Base sa aking obserbasyon, ang mga ganitong klase ng relasyon na nagsimula sa pakikipagniig ay hindi nagtatagal, samantalang ang mga relasyong dumaan sa proseso at sa mga bagay na sinubok ang kanilang pagmamahal sa isa't isa ay nagtatagal.

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P.S.

Ang mga tinuran ng author sa entry na ito ay pawang opinyon lamang base sa kanyang pananaw at napagdaanan.